Patterns in Patriarchy

The recent conviction for the murder of Annie Le, the Yale grad student, reveals a too-common pattern that we don’t want to see.

New Haven Police Chief James Lewis stressed that this crime was workplace violence, in an AP article:

“It is important to note that this is not about urban crime, university crime, domestic crime but an issue of workplace violence, which is becoming a growing concern around the country,” Lewis said, adding he wasn’t ruling out additional charges.

But the location of the crime is far less significant than the persons involved: a (white) man enacting violence against a woman (of color).   There are many factors in play here, and preventing such horrendous crimes in the future will require a multi-pronged approach.  But it won’t be ended unless we explore (and change) how men feel that lashing out violently against women resolves problems.  Why do men resort to violence and why are women deemed their choice of victims?

It can be a scary world to be a woman in, and it shouldn’t be that way.

Reposting: Resource for Women of Faith

Sounds like a good excuse for a trip to Minnesota….

Hi All -

I hope this email finds you all well.  There are many exciting things happening within the emerging church world these days, including more and more women’s voices being heard.  I am blessed to be a part of this community where we encourage and seek to learn from each other, and as women stand up and add our voice to this emerging conversation.  So for this summer’s newsletter, I wanted to highlight a few ways we can connect with each other and listen to women’s voices.

1. First, I am excited to invite everyone to the upcoming event Christianity 21.

Christianity 21: Faith in the 21st Century

21 Voices

21 Ideas

21 Minutes Each

We live in a time of epochal change.

Many find this change exciting; for others, it’s a challenge. Call it globalization, pluralization, or postmodernism, this change affects our economy, politics, government, and education—all of society. And, of course, our faith and our churches are not immune to change.

So we have gathered 21 of the most important voices for the future of Christianity—21 voices for the 21st century—to speak into our future as people of faith in this age. They represent a diverse array of backgrounds, interests, and passions, and they will provide a wide range of innovative and challenging presentations.

Christianity21 is less a conference and more a happening, an event—a gathering of voices and ideas that will shape the future of our faith. And to the 21 voices, we want you to add your voice, whether you’re a seeker or skeptic, leader or layperson, disciple or doubter.

We hope you consider joining your voice to ours at Christianity21.

Friday, October 9 – Sunday, October 11 2009
Colonial Church of Edina
6200 Colonial Way
Minneapolis, MN 55436

This is an event where women’s voices are prominently featured – including a number of women from the Emerging Women community.  Speakers include Phyllis Tickle, Nadia Bolz-Weber, Diana Butler Bass, Lauren Winner, Sally Morganthaler, Nanette Saywer and more.  This event will be a time to dig deep into exploring the future of Christianity and of casting a hope-filled vision to seek together.  I am excited to be a part of this event and to learn from these women.  I encourage everyone here to try and attend – adding your voice to the conversation.

For more information and to register visit www.christianity21.com

2. I also encourage you to help us connect to what emerging women are doing everywhere.  If you stumble upon a good article, blog post, book, poem, story or sermon that you think other emerging women should know about, please send us the link or information so we can share it on the website (emergingwomen.us).  And especially if you have published a book or article, have a new album out, or an upcoming art show – we want to know about it!  To learn from each other and to encourage each other, we need to know what is happening in each other’s lives.  So please, help us all to connect by sending in these suggestions to emergingwomen@gmail.com

3.  In addition, the Emerging Women blog is always eager to post your submissions.  We are a member driven blog, so that means the content is created by you.  So if you have an article, reflection piece, review, question, current event story, poem, story, or theological insight that addresses emerging topics or issues women face please submit it to our blog (to emergingwomen@gmail.com).  You don’t have to be a published author, or even have your own blog, we just want your voice to be heard!  We ask that submissions try to stay under 800 words and that you submit a short (1-2 sentence) bio we can include with your post.  This past spring we had a great series on perspectives on sex as we heard from a wide spectrum of emerging women.  There will be similar series in the future, but submissions on any topic are welcome to be submitted whenever.

I hope to connect with many of you in conversation on the blog and hopefully see some of you in person at Christianity 21.  Thank you for being a part of this community and for helping encourage women to use their voice.

Blessings

p.s.  If you haven’t updated your links with the new blog address yet, please change them to www.emergingwomen.com

Burial the Brethren Way

I sure am proud to be Brethren! 

Click here to check out what our church is doing: revolutionizing burial practices.   Interment of ashes in a communal garden at the church.  Yes, it’s just for one relatively small community.  But it has deep implications. 

What can I say but WOW?  This is truly living out that tagline we’re so familiar with as Church of the Brethren: we’re doing burial in a way that emphasizes community (together in spirit in death as in life), a way that’s simpler than the ecologically-taxing standard burial practices, a way that memorializes peace for the world as well as for each soul tied to that place.  I think this is the work of ritual done justly that Jesus would have smiled to see.

This is environmental burial that truly considers our impact on the Earth/earth, even and especially in the midst of one of the biggest life transitions we go through.  This is communitarian burial that takes relationships seriously in how we identify ourselves and how we remember ourselves.  This is radical stuff!  And we’re not just talking about it – we’re just doing it. 

Amen!

Alaskan women against Sarah Palin

Here’s a very fast-moving video of some of the signs at a recent Alaska protest against the McPalin ticket.  There are some real gems:

At 0:10: “Blink before going to war.”  (Yes!  Exactly!  How in the world has careful deliberation gotten a bad rap?)

At 1:10: “Don’t insult my pit bull.”

At 1:57: “Palin’s not pro-women, why should women be pro-Palin?”

Gender bias continues in ’science’

An astute friend alerted me to a recent New York Times ’science’ article about the supposed continuation of ‘the’ gender gap ‘even’ in industrialized, gender-liberated societies.

It’s interesting how such articles, often stuck in science sections but occasionally appearing in more specifically human interest sections, must keep reappearing to reassure us that women are still women and men are still men, and keep reminding us just how wrong those silly feminists are who try to free the world from gender and gender bias. The death of feminism is just drawn on and on and on.

I think here’s the premise of the studies the article covers: ‘primitive’ tribal cultures treat women poorly, make them do back-breaking labor, and only allow men into key decision-making roles; on the other hand, ‘advanced,’ ‘civilized’ cultures (like ours, New Yorkers might say) have welcomed women into equal roles with men, allowing women equal space in various fields of labor and in decision-making powers. But, surprise!, in the more industrialized societies, women still think more womanly (cooperative, nurturing, emotionally responsive, etc.) and men still think more manly (competitive, reckless, emotionally vacuous, etc.). In the tribal societies, women and men are actually MORE alike psychologically than in the industrialized societies! Wow!

Okay, so this view is particularly paternalistic toward non-Western societies and cultures, and completely overlooks subcultures within Western countries, assuming a monolithic culture. It treats non-Western social organization as comparable to malnutrition, a stunting of human potential. It also assumes a linear trend, from prehistoric, ancient humanity and its rigid gender differences, progressing on to its remaining vestiges in tribal communities, and then evolving further into (Western, capitalist) industrial societies. Which is pure hooey.

And of course this article assumes two genders. It assumes that the similarities among persons who have cunts or cocks are greater than the similarities among and between persons with diverse genitalia. It assumes that there is no middle ground ‘between’ genders, and that such categories are useful and valid. It also assumes heterosexuality, that men want to stick with women ‘on the savanna’ and vice versa.

And of course this article presumes middle-class and luxury-class lifestyles for persons of various (‘both’) genders, i.e. that women stayed at home until our grandparents’ generation and then went into the outside workforce. Working class women have always worked outside the home, yet this article flattens all women into one category with one experience of work. It would be strengthened by a serious class analysis, observing gender roles and actual measurable disparities among genders in different major class groupings. It might ask, do working class families in the US and other industrialized nations exhibit similar patterns to families in non-industrialized nations?

But if it did that, it might start to get at the real crux of the matter, which this article wants to tidily ignore. And it wouldn’t be so surprised at these findings. And it wouldn’t allow this simplistic binary to guide popular thinking on gender issues. For example, in response to the ’shocking’ idea that non-Western societies sometimes have greater equality and similarity in personality between men and women, the article has this to say:

For evolutionary psychologists, the bad news is that the size of the gender gap in personality varies among cultures. For social-role psychologists, the bad news is that the variation is going in the wrong direction. It looks as if personality differences between men and women are smaller in traditional cultures like India’s or Zimbabwe’s than in the Netherlands or the United States.

And those are the only two analyses explored. Wow. What depth.

This article misses the whole point that the uber-competitive hyper-male and the hyper-docile sub-woman are tools of the violent capitalist machine that runs the West (well, runs the world but has met its ultimate expression in the West). These extreme gender differences are the theatrical roles we are schooled in, yes, from our childhoods, in order to do our small parts to sustain the capitalist behemoth. And capitalist patriarchy has sprung back in the face of reduced visible barriers between genders, emphasizing subtler gender distinctions that take on greater significance when other barriers are gone.

The article assumes that equality in the marketplace and capitalist workforce is true gender equality. It is, only so far as it is equal-opportunity human captivity to Mammon.

But still, part of this captivity requires reinforcement of artificial identities, in order to divide people from each other and to distract us from rising up against the evil system that is our true enemy.

One of the problems with this article’s reporting of these studies about gendered competitiveness is that it accepts that gender difference is most natural – humanity’s primordial tendency. In this view, Western feminism has in some ways blocked the expression of this natural personality difference between genders in its attempt to regain our natural socio-political equality. One of the scientists quoted admits that extreme patriarchal capitalism is a perversion of the more egalitarian hunter-gatherer societies, which had less concentration of power in the hands of a few men. But he still has to cling to the idea that women and men must, just MUST still be different:

“Humanity’s jaunt into monotheism, agriculturally based economies and the monopolization of power and resources by a few men was ‘unnatural’ in many ways,” Dr. Schmitt says, alluding to evidence that hunter-gatherers were relatively egalitarian. “In some ways modern progressive cultures are returning us psychologically to our hunter-gatherer roots,” he argues. “That means high sociopolitical gender equality over all, but with men and women expressing predisposed interests in different domains. Removing the stresses of traditional agricultural societies could allow men’s, and to a lesser extent women’s, more ‘natural’ personality traits to emerge.”

Now, this sounds good. We of the dominant class in the US are certainly are not living the most natural lifestyles we could be, in any sense of the word. But why must we retain the idea that women and men will express ‘predisposed’ differences in terms of interests or personalities? That makes little sense.

“Things could get confusing if the personality gap widens further as the sexes become equal,” the article bemoans. Confusing! Yikes! Run to the hills – confusion! We humans can’t handle that – we must have crystal clarity in all things, especially regarding (artificially-constructed political) identity!

Yet I must wonder whether any of us busy living our lives would ever notice these supposed magnifications of the personality gender gap if articles such as this didn’t waste our time reminding us of them? Isn’t this just subtle justification for preventing gender equality – a sort of, “Well, look, you uppity feminists, just look at how UNperfect the world is now that you finally got what you asked for! We told you so!” (even if it takes regular newspaper articles to remind us how unperfect this new world is)? Isn’t this justification for elite men not putting in the effort to be nicer, more cooperative, more emotionally open, and therefore ‘feminine’ (as the studies define it) or ‘human’ (as the rest of us might define it)? Are there really no other, bigger problems rooted in disparity between those of the dominant gender and the rest of us in this society these folks could be studying?

The Fairer Sex?

Life ain’t fair, and less fair for many of us.

(from xkcd.com)

Olympic Spirit

The Olympic Games open on an auspicious day this year: 8/8/08.  I hope that will be a day of incredible peace for the world, in many ways.

I must say that while a few of the events would interest me, the politics surrounding China’s hosting are much more interesting to me, and make it easy for me to ‘boycott’ watching the Games. I still am following the activity running parallel to the sporting events: the subtle and not-so-subtle protest.  China’s blatant disregard for human rights has spawned a train of activist dissent, for everything from animal rights to ending support for the Burmese junta and the genocidal Sudanese government to freeing the provinces of its own country it rules with an iron fist.

Here’s my current Olympics protest round-up:

  • The US track and field team’s choice for running its flag in the opening ceremonies has made me proud: they selected Lopez Lomong, a refugee from Darfur, effectively bringing China’s greedy foreign policy into the spotlight.
  • US Swimmer Amanda Beard’s nude protest against wearing fur was not quite so inspiring, I must say. I’m glad she’s getting to use her non-athletic skills in new arenas and all, but is this really at all effective in changing consumer habits? Does not the assumed acceptance of the exploitation of women’s bodies actually feed into the cultural acceptance of other living bodies, such as animals? Have we not all read Carol Adam’s classic, The Sexual Politics of Meat? Elsewhere, Anna Lisa has commented on the disappointment many of us feel that some women have no problem commodifying themselves as sexual objects in order to draw attention to animal rights. Must we really choose between liberation for women and for animals?
  • Independent, non-athlete protesters, some of them Christian, have been furthering debate, too. There is too much to speak out about. The FREE TIBET banner some protesters unfurled in Tiananmen Square was especially effective.

Keep it up, brothers and sisters! Let’s live out the true Olympic spirit of international harmony and respect for all humanity.

The Feminist Review

My buddy Anna Lisa has a nice lil blog going over at The Feminist Review. She and her partner write about current pop cultural offerings like books and movies, from Wall-E to Wicked (which, by the way, is totally feminist, I say).

One thing I really like about this blog is Anna Lisa’s intelligent use of the term ‘feminist,’ as explained in her “About” section. She understand the cultural context of it – that it has traditionally been used by middle-class white women to describe their own struggle for liberation. There are many other terms out there that other women and men have used to describe themselves and their oppressions. But unlike some folks, Anna Lisa knows this is the context of the word and doesn’t shy away from its limitations, doesn’t try to appropriate someone else’s words to describe her own context. Instead, she acknowledges that, as a white middle-class woman, the term is the one that fits her best, and she is ready to use it. She seems to understand that “feminism” can be all the MORE powerful when we use it in its particular meaning instead of universalizing it to encompass every woman’s experience.

This is much more sustainable activist ideology, not constantly shifting our language as if at some point, our language can, finally, perfectly express the reality we are experiencing, but instead knowing that our language will always be merely an approximation of what we are living. Instead, we must use the imperfect words we have so long as they serve some purpose. And we must always use those words with strong qualifications and contextualizations, as Anna Lisa offers in her podcast intro to her blog. Thanks for being a great feminist, Anna Lisa!

My Cunt-Loving Editorial for My Seminary Newsletter

February 2008

This week at my seminary is not only Valentine’s Day but “V Week,” a celebration of all things vaginal. The (ahem) seminal event of the week was the performance of The Vagina Monologues on Tuesday night. And any of you in attendance there will have gotten to see me leave the page to traverse the stage.

The director of the Monologues, Kelly Williams, invited me to present the monologue, “Reclaiming Cunt.” As she pointed out, I might be an apt choice for the piece, because of my intimate yet complicated relationship with language. The motivation to reclaim the term ‘cunt’ is respect for words and the power of language, coupled with the re-prioritizing of the bodies those words exist to represent.

I have discovered that, sadly, I am unique in having grown up sheltered from the word, from either its liberated or oppressive incarnations. My sister confirms that ‘cunt’ was not a part of our family’s or hometown’s vocabulary. When I first really heard the word ‘cunt,’ I heard it in my college’s liberatory, feminist context, where it was a word of empowerment. There, I wasn’t exactly reclaiming the word, but claiming it for myself for the first time.

It made sense. The word ‘vagina’ originates in the Latin word for ‘scabbard’ or ‘sheath’ (i.e. for a sword). It’s named not for its crucial function of birthing babies, not for its function as an ‘out hole’ for monthly blood, not for its potential to provide its bearer with sexual pleasure. No, it’s named for what it does for the penis.

‘Cunt,’ on the other hand, is a cognate with such happy words as ‘cunning,’ ‘kind,’ ‘country,’ ‘ken,’ and ‘kin.’ It has resonance in the names of goddesses like Kunda and Cunina. According to Barbara G. Walker, it was a title of respect for wise women in pre-modern times. As Jon Harvey points out, before the 17th century, it wasn’t considered the slur it is some places today. And, yes, it sounds a bit more empowering to have a ‘cunt’ on your body than a ‘va-gi-na.’

To step back another level, though, we can use cunt to explore the power of words themselves. Why does this one little word, this simple collection of four innocuous letters, have so much power in our societies? Is the word ‘cunt’ used as a slur because of its own connotations or because it equates the one called a ‘cunt’ with female genitalia – and if the latter, why is that a bad thing?

Words might not break bones, but they can leave lasting damage in subtler ways. The contexts in which words are used matters. Who it is speaking the word matters, too. There are plenty of spaces I don’t need to reclaim the empowering essence of a word like ‘cunt;’ there are plenty of people who don’t need to ‘reclaim cunt;’ and this is crucial discernment to engage in.

But we must also prioritize in our care the bodies those words refer to. I get a little worried when debates start focusing on what words we call certain people, instead of the ways those certain people are being treated in the flesh. The uplifting of bodies should run alongside, not counter to, the liberating of our language. Reclaiming words can be part of the process of increasing respect for the beings those words represent. For example, the phrase ‘running like a girl’ shifts from insult to praise when we break out of the assumption that girls are less athletic than boys.

And so I choose to claim (or reclaim) ‘cunt,’ while playwright Eve Ensler reclaims ‘vagina.’ And I hope our feminist work can be done together, whatever we call our body parts, for our common goal of ending all violence against women’s bodies.

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I have an interesting relationship with the Monologues. I performed in them twice at my college (which dates me, I know). And I was never completely comfortable with them – not because they were too edgy for me, not because they went too far in their feminism. Rather, I thought they were a little mild, and I was disappointed that they have come to be THE feminist event a community must perform. They are limited in that they are, despite their origins in interviews with various women, filtered through the voice of one woman: mono-authored monologues. Some of the characters and lines leave me with questions: what’s so ‘random’ about being adopted? Why are the older women’s experiences funny, while the already-empowered younger women’s experiences the ones we’re supposed to relate to? And, come on – why bother getting so smitten with ‘vaginas’ when it’s c-u-n-t CUNTS! that we should be celebrating?

But my conversations with folks of all genders involved in the show reminds me how needed the Monologues’ message still is. One (ahem) fellow Vagina Warrior shared some of the responses she got when she tried to sell tickets to the show to colleagues: two men offered her money just to STOP saying ‘vagina,’ while another bought a ticket for his wife to see the show, making sure to have the excuse of babysitting that night so that he wouldn’t have to attend the performance himself. And I am reminded that just last year, a performance of The Vagina Monologues was billed as “The Hoo-Haa Monologues” because of the theater’s squeamishness about the show’s eponymous focus. If some folks still haven’t gotten from ‘hoo-haa’ to ‘vagina,’ the move from ‘vagina’ to ‘cunt’ may be a long way coming.

As we know well at Pacific School of Religion, everything has its own context. ‘Hoo-haa’ might seem a preferable, respectful term when the alternative is a derogatory use of the word ‘cunt.’ But usually, the joking phrase of ‘hoo-haa’ would be better replaced by the physiologically accurate word ‘vagina.’ And for many of us, both of these would be better replaced by the reappropriation/reincarnation/resurrection of the honorific veiled within the curse word ‘cunt.’

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Some day, the body parts that birth new generations and stimulate sexual delight will be fully honored, along with the body parts that watch for trouble and see visions of the future, the body parts that knead bread and cradle dying loved ones, the body parts that tread miles and are washed by a Messiah who stoops down with towel and basin.

Some day, we will see that just as humanity cannot thrive while any member of it suffers, neither can a human body thrive while parts of it are disparaged. Some day, when cunts are honored, all members of the body will rejoice together with them.

And it will be the work of bold feminists, such as those bringing V Week to Pacific School of Religion, who will birth that new day into being.

Making womenstration more fun

This sounds cool: Lunapanties, from Lunapads in British Columbia. Also, Luna(tic) Chocolate. Mmmmenstruation!

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